It’s finally day 14 of 14 Day’s of Valentine’s! Which calls for a huge Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone! It also means we have officially made it through the past two weeks. Yay! Today I don’t have any recipes and I don’t have any tips. What I’m sharing is simply a post coming from my heart and it’s about real love.
Today of all days celebrates this thing called love. It’s the predominant theme is books and movies, and it’s in almost every song. It’s supposed to be magical and beautiful and perfect. But I think our society, especially my generation, looks for love in all the wrong ways. Today love is measured by whether he likes your Instagram picture and or how fast he looks at your Snapchat story. We analyze every text message and interaction obsessively. Love is show by Netflix and chill (which isn’t always a bad thing) but can sometimes lack true dedication. And at the end of the day we are often left confused and hurt.
The games we play and the dating rules we have to perpetuate this artificial love are no better. Don’t text back too quickly, or you’ll seem too interested. And while we are at it, don’t double text either. If you are “talking” with someone, forget understanding anything. You are unofficially an official couple with no responsibility, but all kinds of questions. We calculate these rules and these games to seem thoughtless and casual, yet we are walking on eggshells. We hide behind our phones. And it’s exhausting.
So this is why I looked for a new standard and this is what I hold every relationship to, whether it be a romantic relationship or not. My standard became 1st Corinthians 13. Genuine love is not exhausting and it definitely does not play games.
The verse says,
- Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Today (and hopefully everyday) I am choosing this kind of love. I am choosing the people that continually show me patience when I am at fault and who serve others selflessly. Genuine love never looks to hurt others and it never causes resentment.
So do those closer ones in your life forgive you? Are they patient and understanding? Are they polite? Do they bring up past mistakes and hold them against you? In middle school, I specifically remember a conversation we had in a small group where we were challenged to insert our loved one’s name in every time it says “love.” And then we evaluated if the statements were true. How eyeopening!
Whether you are in a relationship or not, and whether you have this standard for a boyfriend or best friend, remember to be accountable to yourself. Hold tight to the relationships that are healthy and happy. Show to your loved ones what you expect to be shown in return. Spread some genuine love this Valentine’s Day!